Self-Care on Social Media

The cheat sheet

Via  Giphy

Via Giphy

The way we use social media has implications in the digital world as well as in our real lives. Just think about the last time a post from your ex, a negative comment from a relative, or a perfect photo from an Instagram celebrity sent you into a downward spiral.  

So how do we avoid these downward spirals and start taking better care of ourselves on social media without completely giving it up?

It starts with turning down the noise on our feeds. Here are some tips on how to do that from social media strategist Melanee Dark:

Turn down the noise on Facebook

1. Unfollow those who trigger difficult feelings

Unfollow those whose posts consistently trigger difficult feelings like exes, disapproving parents, and neglectful friends. Remember that on Facebook you don't have to "Unfriend" to "Unfollow."

2. Change Your Privacy Settings

Set the privacy of your posts to Friends Only to make sure strangers who are connected to you through friends don't see your content.

3. Set Your Newsfeed to ‘Most Recent’

Setting your Newsfeed to most recent every time you open the app will keep the noisiest topics balanced with the everyday posts of friends and the brands, organizations, and news outlets you follow.

4. Curate Your Friends into Categorized Lists

After you create categorized lists, you can post freely without opening yourself up to predictable political fights, and passive aggressive judgments by setting the post’s audience to “everyone but” the list you choose.

Example list types: combative about politics, over-sensitive to my religion/lack of religion, family who will judge my partying, and work peeps (for those “sick” days by the pool)

5. Take a Break from Anyone You Want to See Less

Facebook makes it easy to take a break from an ex after a relationship ends or from anyone you want to see less which basically means seeing less of each other's content. 

Turn Down the Noise on INSTAGRAM

1. Unfollow Those Who Trigger Difficult Feelings

Unfollow those whose posts consistently trigger difficult feelings like exes, disapproving parents, neglectful friends, and profiles that make you feel jealous or like you're not good enough. 

2. Set your profile to private

If you're feeling overexposed to the public, take back some of the control by making your profile private. This way you choose who sees what you post.

3. Choose who can view your Story

Hide your story from people who trigger difficult feelings from viewing on Instagram. This gives you space from those negative feelings without having to set your main profile to private.

4. Clear Your Search History

If you find yourself going back to check your ex's feed just because it's sitting in your recent searches or your Top 5, take away the easy access by clearing your search history

Turn Down the Noise on TWITTER

1. Unfollow those whose tweets trigger difficult feelings

You know the drill. That means unfollowing exes, difficult personalities, and alarmists. 

2. Curate who you follow into lists

Curating who you follow into lists means that when you click on a list you will only see the tweets of those on that list. 

Example list types: News Outlets, Friends/Family, Brands, Politics, Live Tweeters, and Comedians

3. Block the Trolls

Keep people from interacting with you on Twitter by blocking their account.

Turn Down All the noise

1. Use an Anti-Distraction App

Can’t trust yourself to avoid social media? Use an anti-distraction app like Freedom! These apps allow you to lock yourself out of distracting channels for programmable blocks of time. You won’t be able to navigate to them nor will you receive any notifications from them!

2. Turn off Notifications

Keep yourself from being so sucked in by turning off notifications on all of your devices.

Listen to the Episode:

Get more tips from Melanee for self-care on social media by listening to this episode of our podcast WE DO WE. 👇